Sunday, February 22, 2009

I want to go to there.

"I just wish I could start a relationship about 12 years in where you don’t really have to try anymore and you can just sit around together and goof on TV shows and go to bed without anybody trying any funny business."
~Liz Lemon, 30 Rock

So this weekend I went out to lunch with a couple of friends from the Children of Eden, which was really fun. Firstly, it was nice because it's a rare occurance that I get to spend time like that with people my actual age. And secondly, because we all get along so well and share a sense of humor. (Back me up on this, Sara.) But one of the coolest things about the day was this...the guy in our group is married and is obviously very happy about it. And it's not one of those sickening newly-wed things that some people my age have; it's a three-year-old marriage that, while still new when compared to marriages like our parents', has been broken in a little bit. And it's clear that he has found that person who really makes him happy. And just listening to him talk about his marriage and talk to his wife on the phone, I was like...jealous. Of a married person! For being married! That almost never happens to me.

He told us about how they're really at the point where they just enjoy going home to hang out with each other, and sit around drinking beer and watching TV together. And that just sounded...really good to me!

Or as my hero Liz Lemon would say, "I want to go to there."

Here's the thing -- I am still not ready to do the whole dating thing...the asking/being asked out, the first few slightly uncomfortable dates, forking over more and more of my time to someone else, the obligation of talking on the phone (ughhhh) every day, and having to "check in" all the time (blech). Now, I realize that if a relationship was really worth it to me, I probably wouldn't feel obligated to go through that process, but rather be excited about it. And that's how I know I need to stay on the bench for now. And I also realize that I have to go through all the dating, time-sacrificing, phone calls, and so on, in order to get the sweatpants and the beer on the couch with the TV. But sometimes I just wish I could skip all the weird stuff and just get to the good stuff!!!

It's not possible, I know. But I'm just saying. It would be nice.

And speaking of instant relationships...who's excited for tomorrow's episode of The Bachelor? The women are gonna tell all and personally I just can't wait to see poor ol' Shannon! Plus I think we're gonna see some of our favorite ghosts of bachelors past! Should be fun.

Until then!

5 comments:

Sara said...

Our lunch was magnificent, and this blog made me snort. You sound just like me.

"What, I have to call you again? Didn't I talk to you last week or something?"

The three of us should play again soon.

Unknown said...

totally agree with you about wanting "to get the sweatpants and the beer on the couch with the TV."
hahaha my fav line. :)

Lis said...

Ohhhh you girls. You make my day :)

Laura said...

As much as I love the beer on the couch/ tv watching days, there is something about the first couple months of a relationship where you are just so filled with butterflies and excitement and everything is new and perfect, and its just heavenly.. I wouldn't trade comfort for anything, but the initial crush can be fun too.
It's good that you know you're not ready... most girls are just so desperate to be a relationship that they force it. When your perfect one comes along you will be ready.

Bethany said...

What a cool post. Being comfortably married is really cool, but so is single life when you look back on it. So, live it up! :)